you tell her in a very nice way what you think can be done so that none of is overloaded and that you should work as team.

The other option is to discard with your immediate supervisor to draw up a Job description for each of you.and you stick by it.

Been there, done that! I can sympathize with you. You do need to sit down and talk with her, when the kids are not present. Ask her to schedule a meeting with you so that you can be sure you are on the same page with her regarding best service to your children and families. When you meet, tell her in a non-aggressive manner that you really enjoy working with the kids so much that you’d like to be able to do more of it, but you feel that so much of your time with them is taken up with chores that could be better accomplished in other ways. She should allow the children to water the plant, and sweep the floor. Children LOVE doing this kind of work. And the microwave would be so much easier to clean if it is done immediately after use. Perhaps if she takes some responsibility for some of these simple chores, you could wipe off the shelves, put the chairs up, and have more quality time with the kids.

I have to tell you though, it sounds like there are ego issues on her part and she may be unwilling to make changes. You may have to decide if this particular job is worth accepting and dealing with her ego, or is it time to move on.

It sounds as though you two need to schedule some out-of-school time to have a meeting and discuss things that need to be attended to – things you can do, things she can do – to make the transition seamless and more efficient.