its gonna sound weird but…. hes like a girl trapped in a boys body. i saw a show on TV that had to do with this… there was this girl that was a girl trapped in a boys body… i forgot what its called though… =/ he was probably just destined to be a girl. he feels like a girl but looks like a boy…. i really wish i could remember what the word is.. =/ i think its transgender…

We obviously don’t have all the background on what’s happening in your life, but here’s what I can say:

Gender identity is a huge part of adolescence, and it’s reasonable to be exploring right now. The question is how long your 13-year-old has demanded to be treated as a female.

If this is a short-term issue (if, let’s say, this came up within the last month or two), I would make a deal- “We’ll wait it out another year and if you’re still a she, then we can explore options for the transformation.”

If this has been long-term, then I agree that finding a local transgender support group is probably your best bet. Let your child compare notes with people, see if this is really what’s going on and what other people’s experiences with the transformation have been like.

The part where you say “today,” make me inclined to believe it’s the former. So, take a deep breath, recognize that it could go either way still, and don’t do anything irrevocable. Parenting is tough, and no one gave you the guide book for “What to Do When My Child Says She/He is Transgender.” Just keep your calm and you’ll be fine.

I can see you are the guy. Forget your mom in all of this – except that YOU need to talk to her.

If you are really sure about what you want, talk to your mom and explain to her what you feel. Do some research on the Internet – there are lots of support groups for gays, bisexuals etc. Your mom needs to accept you the way you are – if you are SURE this is what you wish to do.

You are changing your life if you do this, I hope you realize. At 13, I think you are still too young to make this decision and change your future therefore. Sometimes you are just really mixed up. Talk to your mom – she will probably help you – and think about it for a year or so. If you’re 100% sure about what you want, then go ahead. It’s your body, your life!

Good luck.

And this does NOT mean you have to be homeschooled!

You need more help than Yahoo can provide. Firstly, you need to know what triggered this decision. It’s unusual behavior for a 13-year old. Secondly, if he wants to be a girl, there is a transition for transgendered people to go through, but he is likely much too young for any of their programs. Thirdly, what does home schooling have to do with it? Do you mean you would hide him away and not let anyone see him as a girl? That isn’t the solution.He (and you) have to come to grips with some pretty serious stuff here, and hiding him in the back bedroom for the next ten years isn’t going to work.

You need the services of a counsellor who practises in this field. Good luck to both of you.

Gender issues are common, particularly in puberty, when you don’t really know how and where you fit it. At 13, he is not legally able to make this decision and no transgender program I know of would accept him, as a minor. 1) Get him into therapy (he has issues to work thru and if nothing else, to decide if this is something he really wants. 2) Let him know that you love him and accept the person he is no matter what. 3) Find a gay or transgendered support group. Shaving your legs does not make you a woman… perhaps talking with transgenders will help him determine his future plans. Good luck and props to you for listening to your child.

Nice try, Troll!!! Since your profile says:

“About me: im a guy who lives as a girl”

It’s obvious you’re not asking “for your mom”. You’re just trying to rile people up.

Let him/her be him/herself…. and as far as schooling goes check out www.k12.com….some states even pay students education through k12 but not all but you as a parent can still pay and use the curriculum. Any questions feel free to email me. Good luck! 🙂

That is very perverted. My advice: Don’t let some 13 year old kid totally screw up his life and do things he will eventually regret just because he thinks he wants to. Your mom needs to step up, be a mom, and get him some counciling.

If you’re going to ask a question like this, at least be honest about it…sheesh.

having fun? at least a couple of people got it that you are trying to get your kicks……I was beginning to think I was just becoming cynical.

Do you really expect us to believe that your mom would go to you and ask you to ask a bunch of strangers about something like this?

oh, please.