* education is the first step – a master’s is fine but the social elite are interested in “from where” as well. You need to get some degree at some level from one the elite colleges.

* As a psych major, you know this isn’t all about money — this is about attitudes and habits. There are certain social class markers that the elite class have that we at the middle and lower classes don’t generally employ.

Ralph Lauren/Polo isn’t exactly where you need to be looking. That class has some clothing markers (Rolex, Prada, Armani) but for the most part it’s about attitudes. Get a copy of Robb Report and see what’s in there.

You can’t fake this successfully, you simply have to move into that class if it’s your goal.

$100,000 is definitely not a working-class background (that would be blue-collar workers – think factory assembly line). That would be considered at least middle class – probably even upper-middle, depending on where you live. The highest social class is probably off limits to you, since the only way to really fit in there is to have been born into it. You could probably LOOK like you belong, but would always feel a bit like a wannabe. Social class is about values, not just the surface factors. I would recommend that you read Town&Country for an idea of brands and stores. Put yourself in places where these people are. Part of the problem is that I don’t know of many 25-year olds in any class that are into dinner parties! I also need to caution you. What you are talking about is what is commonly-known as social climbing, and many people find it unpleasant if you are obvious about it. Just the idea of someone who isn’t satisfied with people like herself but wants to get into a different world is a little offensive.

If we’re talking income, read Robert T. Kiyosaki’s book, Cash Flow Quadrant. He basically said their’s 4 ways to make money, employed and self employed on the left, b-type business and investor on the right. 95% of the wealth thinking/money is on the right side, yet only 5% of the people are on the right side. do the math, that’s 19 fish for one fisherman or one fish for 19 fishermen. The difference between the left and right is ‘information’. Education, yes, school, no. Go to school, get good grades, get a good job doesn’t work any more. they can only teach you to do what they did, get a job, aka Just Over Broke because that’s what they did. Define, Learn, Do. Define the lifestyle you want, learn from someone who has it and do what they did to get it. basically people that have the lifestyle your talking about aren’t wearing abercrombie, American Eagle brand clothing, etc. you hit that nail on the head. I forgot who said it, but he said “you have to be in business for yourself” not working for someone. You’re association is a big thing too. they say you can tell a man’s worth by the five closest friends he has, add up all their incomes, divide by 5 and that’s what your making. I’m pretty sure I hit that nail on the head with that one.

I reacently got into being a Leadership Development Service Provider, I think that’s exactly what your looking for. I have people in my business that have doubled their income at their job just from having a different attitude towards life, and different information. I’d really like to share it with you, you sound like someone who wants to take a turn for the better in their life. email me, [email protected] and I can plug you into a system that works like you wouldn’t believe. other than that, I wish you well in your journeys to finding that. The information is right here though ;).

join a fraternity…make some friends/social connections, marry up— if you think that will have lasting effect

But do you think these people are better than you? Do you think they will actually accept you? Even if you become more educated, make more money than your parents you sort of have to be born into high society to truly belong. It takes families usually a few generations to rise in social status to the point you are trying to reach. Unless you become super famous/wealthy … become a key figure in business or some industry… ie. Donald Trump, Oprah— otherwise people will consider you a wannabe, social climber, new money…

But there really isn’t much you can do. Be happy with who you are. Be proud of the success and hard work of your parents. They worked hard to get you where you are.

join groups in your school and a fraternity/serority. Work hard, do internships. When you manage to get a high paid, good quality job and become more known, you will more likely come across higher status people.

At 25 I would say you should outgrow Abercrombie, unless it is with just friends or walking the dog.

Try dressing more professional. banana republic is more like the store that I would have in mind.

Please calm down and relax. It is not that serious. Just be yourself. Why go through all of that, in order to, pretend you’re something you’re not?

You can have more. There is nothing wrong with desiring more. But, there is more to life than looking for the right polo or elite dinner parties to attend.

Look at Oprah for instance, she remained true to herself.

Word to the wise, do not make a ” certain status” your “god’ or “idol”.

The Word of God says, Seek 1st the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and “all” these things shall be added unto you. Put God 1st in your life and you will not be concerned about being accepted by so called higher status individuals.

When you are real to yourself and real to others, then, you will find liked-minded individuals trying to attach themselves to you my friend.

Take care, read the Word of God and He will Prosper you.