That said, she should get started on that now. Ask her why she chooses not to get involved at her community college. Tell her that she should be more proactive. You can visit her community college’s website and see what opportunities are available (social, service, etc.) that you think she’ll enjoy getting involved in if you think she’s already convinced it’s hopeless and therefore won’t take the initiative. And there’s always volunteering – tell her that instead of sitting there wondering what she might be missing out on, to use that time to help someone else. That will also help her get out of her funk and to put things in perspective.

I wasn’t a transfer student, but I know plenty of people who were, and they managed just fine by being friendly, being approachable and putting themselves out there in order to meet people.

Finally, stay in touch with her and hopefully your other friends will too so that she doesn’t feel as cut off from everyone. And make sure she’s not walking around her CC sulking and looking all miserable all the time – that doesn’t exactly make someone approachable.

I know that all this is easier said than done, but it’s doable. She never knows how it’s all going to turn out. She’ll most probably realize a couple of months after she transferred that she was worried about nothing. If she’s suicidal, she needs to get professional help now. Tell her to seek counselling or to call a hotline. I hope it all turns out well for her.