My first year of college, my boyfriend and I lived together and we had no problems and we actually continue to live together. It would be rather hard for her boyfriend to drive that much just to get to work. If they seriously want to go through with it, maybe he should consider looking for a job closer to where they will be living. Also, my hometown is a little over an hour away from where I attend school and I actually once thought about commuting but then realized it’s the worst idea ever. Your daughter will have study sessions, group projects, or club activities that occur during the evening and it would be a hassle to drive back and forth that much. Dorm living isn’t bad but it may be out of your daughter’s comfort zone. Living with her boyfriend will still allow her to make friends and she’ll also have someone there to lean on when she’s feeling overwhelmed. So it might not be a bad idea. Also, your daughter and her boyfriend are 18 and are capable of making choices on their own. You’re not always going to be there to make them for her but you can always be there when things go wrong.

I think living on campus in a dorm is a wonderful experience of college kids. When I went as a freshmen I was 4 hours from home. Honestly my dorm experience sucked…I was placed in an upper classmen dorm (got housing late), so all those freshmen activities didn’t happen where I was. My roommate lived 30 minutes from campus so he went home every weekend. And I never really talked to the people in my hall. That being said, I learned independence in a safe environment, I learned how to get along with people I might never normally get along with, and I still think of it as a positive experience.

I do think that a 1 hour commute might not be bad for an adult, but for a student who has the flexibility to miss class…yeah…I’d say 1 hour is too long.

tell them the advantages of living on campus.

-easier making new friends

-always have someone to help with homework and tests

-get to socialize more with same interest people

-don’t tie herself with her boyfriend in case they break up

-can use the traveling time to do something else more productive

-dorm for freshmen is a college experience that shouldn’t be miss

-and yes of course it’s going to be cheaper

Try and reason with her about bills and stuff. And I think a 1 hour drive to school everyday is a bit too much. :/