A few days ago

Do teachers have the right to yell at students?

My daughter came home today crying because her teacher yelled at her and embaressed her in-front of her whole class, because she wrote something in the wrong part of her tablet. I honestly think its stupid for a teacher to yell at a student for one little thing. I have heard of this before with my neighbor, her daughter got a bad test grade and the same teacher said outloud that her test grade was the worst in the class. Should I talk to the principal of the school about this?

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A few days ago

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Yes, you should. She’s upsetting the kids.

7 years ago
If she really YELLED at your child over something so trivial, that’s not appropriate. But maybe you should hear the other side of the story first. Sometimes kids can be a little sensitive or exaggerate things. There could be more to the story, or maybe the teacher just corrected her and told her she was writing in the wrong place, but she’s a little sensitive and she took it as “yelling”. However, I was not there either and I don’t know what happened any better than you, so I’m NOT siding with either the teacher or your child. I think the best thing to do would be to talk to the teacher first and figure out what exactly happened. Then take it from there. If after that, you still feel that the teacher isn’t treating your child fairly, you can take it up with the principal.

A few days ago
S. B
Why start with the principal? You should go directly the the President of the United States!! Teachers have no right to even correct your child. You know that they are always right and teachers must always be wrong. If your child does not always make a perfect grade the teacher is at fault and should be dismissed. They certainly are not doing the job that they should be; because they make so much money you are being cheated because your daughter is not learning. Let’s put the blame for everything where it belongs-the backs of all those lazy, overpaid, bully teachers. When will we learn that teachers should be “put in their places” and replaced by the parents who “know it all”?

Note: Before I get a personal lashing with a wet noodle from my fellow teachers, I, of course, write this in PURE JEST. I have taught more than 35 years in a public school system, and this is the kind of thinking that many of us must live with.

To answer the question more seriously, when your child has a real problem then visit the classroom and talk with the teacher. Until you have that problem leave the teaching to those intrusted with the duty and help your child at home.


A few days ago
The Professor
As others have stated, you should talk to the teacher first and hear his/her side. The teacher is the first point of contact for students and parents.

I teach higher education and don’t think that yelling at a student is ever acceptable. Embarrassing a student in front of the class is also not acceptable. I’ve had many times where I was disappointed and/or angry at a student. Yelling at them would not make the situation better. “Teaching them a lesson” by pointing out a student’s mistake in front of the class doesn’t teach them anything…it only bruises self esteem.

There are appropriate ways to handle such situations. Discussions regarding a student’s mistakes, grades, behavior, and other issues should only between the teacher and student (and parent if applicable).


A few days ago
Okay – first make sure your daughter’s definition of “yelling” and what an adult would consider “yelling” is the same thing.

I taught 4th grade for several years and I was amazed at how whenever I “fussed” at the class – that is, called them to task on anything – they would call it “yelling.” No matter how calm and professional I was, if it was negative feedback it was yelling. “Boys and girls, for the last time you need to sit down and please be quiet or you will lose your recess” would fall under their definition of yelling.

I wouldn’t go to the principal right away – I’d go to the teacher first. Meet with her and you may get a very different side of the story. I would even suggest seeing if you can volunteer one day and get a feel for the dynamics of her classroom.

If after working with the teacher you still don’t get results, then it would be appropriate to go to the principal.

We teach our kids all the time to try and solve their own problems and not be a tattle-tale, yet sometimes as adults we model very different behavior.


A few days ago
You may want to ask for a meeting between the teacher and the principal and yourself. Address the situation with both of them present. That way you can state the facts, give your opinion as to the appropriateness of a “professional” teacher belittling a student in front of her peers, ask her to identify what she is trying to accomplish and if the response is garbage, make suggestions for more appropriate ways for this teacher to deal with children. She may not know any better. Since it has happened to other children this immature behavior seems to be a habit with her. Say what you have to say. Listen to her response, then say that you are now leaving to allow her to speak to her principal about it. Make it clear to your principal that you want a call by a specific date and time and find out what is being done to prevent this from happening again. If she does not call, visit her office in person again.

You are your child’s advocate. It must be addressed but will not be if you do not follow up.

And in response to the person who fears you are coddling your child and trying to overprotect them, that is a completely invalid argument. A parent’s role is to protect and teach their child “life” skills. At this child’s age, one of the things parents have to teach them is the difference between an adult being appropriate with them and one who is not. When a teacher is inappropriate it is a very healthy thing for the child to feel confidence that their parent will help them. Clearly this teacher tends to be a bully and needs to be retrained.


A few days ago
I don’t think in the circumstances that you describe it is appropriate for a teacher to yell at a student. There could be more to the situation then your daughter is letting on too.

Approach the teacher with your concerns first. See what she has to say. When children get in trouble they often don’t admit to their wrong doing so it could be a misunderstanding or a child’s perception of the truth.

Before talking to the Principal discuss your concerns with the teacher. If it was you in this position, would you want someone to go to you first or go straight to your boss?


A few days ago
First of all you need to consider that there are two sides to a story. Your daughter has told you her version. It easy to jump on the defense when you are hearing it only from your daughter’s perspective. As an educator, we do not set out to “yell” at students. You must consider the full picture first. What preceded the confrontation? Perhaps the teacher has a class that is inattentive and maybe he/she had to repeat directions repeatedly. This may have caused a source of frustration. Did you ask your daughter if she was sure she was carefully attending at the time directions were given. It could have been a miscommunication. Sometimes students are not always as responsible as they should be and teachers do have to redirect them. Before you decide to go over the teacher’s head to talk the principal, give the teacher the respect of being heard. This way the story is not one sided. Another thing stop siding with your neighbor about this teacher our job is hard enough! We should not have to have people constantly scrutinizing every incident in the classroom. We often get complaints but, rarely THANK YOU’S! Please remember that!

A few days ago
No, you should never talk to the principal until you have talked to the teacher first. That is not following the chain of command and will cause much more problems than you will solve by doing that.

Go to the teacher first and ask for the teacher’s version of the story. Don’t go in with an accusatory tone, but one that genuinely wants to hear the other side. While our children don’t mean to lie necessarily, they don’t always see things the way an adult in the classroom does. I’ve had many students who are quite disruptive in class swear they have no idea what they did wrong. Kids just don’t always see what was wrong.

Also, when your daughter says “the teacher yelled” at her, does this actually mean the teacher shouted at her or that she perceived it that way. Sometimes kids use the term “yelled at me” when they are corrected in any way. If this is the case, there wouldn’t be a problem with the teacher but in how your daughter perceived what the teacher did. This is why you need to ask the teacher to find out what they saw happening.

It could also too be that your daughter was talking when the teacher was giving the directions and that is why she wrote in the wrong place. It really does get frustrating when you just finish giving very good instructions and five hands go up to ask what they are supposed to do because they were talking or not paying attention when you were giving the instructions. If this has happened often with the class or with your daughter specifically, it might be enough to irritate a teacher to raise his/her voice.

Teachers are human and if irritated, they will raise their voices. It happens. But I’ve never met a teacher who did it without a LOT of provocation. Your daughter might think it was “one little thing” but she isn’t taking into consideration the other 10 incidences that just happened with other students in the same room (or possibly something earlier that happened with her).

If you go to the principal without talking to the teacher, you are not teaching your daughter a good way of dealing with conflicts. If there is a conflict, the best thing to do is to talk to the person you have a conflict with. Depending on the age of your daughter, I would suggest SHE go to talk to the teacher (NOT during class!). If she is middle school or above, I think it would help her move toward maturity by asking her to go talk to the teacher first and clarify why the teacher was so irritated about this incident. Maybe your daughter just didn’t see why it was so wrong but the teacher could explain to her why it was wrong.

When your daughter says she was embarrassed, it doesn’t mean that it was something the teacher intended to do. Some kids are much more easily embarrassed than others and if your daughter was not doing things right and the teacher brought that to her attention, she might have felt embarrassed because all of her friends now knew that she wasn’t paying attention and it made her look dumb because she didn’t do what she was supposed to do. Again, if this were the case, it really wouldn’t be the teacher’s fault, but your daughter’s for not following the directions that the other students evidently did.

I’m not saying your daughter is at fault, but before you go off angry at the principal, it would be best to find out the entire story. There are always two sides (as someone else mentioned!). To only hear one side is being disrespectful to your daughter’s teacher. Your daughter’s teacher worked hard to be where they are and does far more work to teach their class than you probably know (unless you are a teacher yourself). They deserve the respect of your daughter going to talk to them first and then you going to them to find out what their professional opinion of the situation is.

They are professionals and it would only be the respectful thing to approach them first for their professional opinion of what went on.


A few days ago
Yelling is not very productive in the classroom. Embarrassing a student because of a grade or academic performance is never acceptable. However, teachers must use all types of methods for getting the attention of a rowdy class. As far as yelling being a “right”, I think it is within their rights but is not encouraged.

A few days ago
in loco parentis for the most part.

is it a right? certainly not.

is it right? no

can she do it? sure.

Have parents yelled at their own kids? sure.

should she have done this? of course not.

could the student have been exaggerating? it happens.

Think through the actions you are to take. I have at times when faced with 160 7th graders said things I regretted. You.ve heard two things from a month? of full days? Im sure more have happened. classroom management is an art and does not always go as planned. I would talk to the teacher myself.

wait a day or two to cool off.