Many times, doctors just prescribe medications to mask the symptoms, and not really bring an end to them. It sounds like your son is frustrated for some reason. Perhaps partially he is right, though partially exagerrating, in the blaming you part. I know it is hard being a single parent these days, but often the children of single parents feel like the odd ones in their peer group, and maybe that is why he says that. I take it that your older son is in his 20s (judging by the figures you have given). You should express to him that your younger son is dealing with an illness of some sort, and the only thing that will help him are the people closest to him (ie. his family). Perhaps he is partially frustrated by the situation between you and his father/the father’s status in jail/the need for an IEP. The threat of not being allowed to attend driving school makes him feel more singled out – unlike his peers, he will not be able to drive himself where ever he pleases. Express to him that as long as he continues behaving the way he does, more and more of his rights will be taken away (as I said, I am not exactly sure of the age your younger son is around, but for the sake of arguement, I will put him in a 14 year old range). In his outbursts, try to calm him down a bit by talking to him nicely, and trying to relax him (when they are minor). When he gets out of hand, you tell him his phone will be taken away (for 1 or 2 weeks, let’s say). The next time, his television will be taken away. The next time, he is not able to go out with friends for a week. Sooner or later, he should get a grip and realize that although he might feel he is making some statement or demonstrating his strength by posing as a physical threat, that is no way to get what he wants. If all else fails, I suggest you call the police and let him spend a night or a week in jail (nothing really too bag, but maybe a juvie hall). They will probably open his eyes over there a bit.