thats why I’m not going to orientation^^

Well..

You have to be friendly in order to make friends. I am kind of stuck on why you didn’t talk to the boys in the first place. In my experiance of highschool drama it’s better to have guy friends then girls. Trust me.

you don’t really have to worry about the orientation though. It doesn’t say anything about how highschool will be when you are really there. Since mostly those kids are freshmen they think they are cool or something. Don’t worry about them. Once you get into your classes I am sure you will make friends. You can sit with classmates at lunch too.

Don’t be scared of highschool. It’s so much fun.

That’s weird…orientation at my school was never like that, we didn’t sit at tables or anything, just stood in line for schedules and stuff.

But the best way to make friends is to talk to people sitting next to you in classes. Strike up a conversation about whatever you’re doing like “isn’t this assignment so dumb? i hate history!” or something like that and you’ll get to talking. When I was in middle school i made my best friend ever when she asked to borrow my white-out! Even if you have no confidence, fake it. Try to look like you know what you’re doing and just go up and talk to someone at lunch, just sit down at a table and start chatting. You’ll get the hang of things soon.

Well the best thing to do is not to get scared. i have been through ALOT of those and one thing i found to be very helpful was being random. once you start school, as you approach anyone (standing and waiting or sitting) just say hi to them or randomly start talking to them about what middle school they come from or just anything. just dont look scared and sad. try to talk to as many people as you come across, even if u may end up not seeing them again. just dont lose confidence and treat each day like a new day. keep a smiling face but dont expect anyone to come to you and make you their frend. you have to go up to these people whenever u get a chance and talk to them. i know its hard when there is a group u r trying to fit in. i always started by finding other lonely people. chances are the other few loners might be in the similar situation as you are. u’ll be fine. hope this helps.

I know how it feels to be left out. For my freshman orientation I went to a school that wasn’t my “designated high school” because I was part of a special advanced program. It turned out that most of the people there already knew each other because that was the school they were designated to go to anyway, and as a result went to the same middle school together.

What might be a good idea is for you to sign up for an after school club. Join a club that you’re interested in, and this will help you find other people who have the same interests as you. This way you’ll have a common interest to talk about and get involved with together, and can move on from there.

During lunch you can also locate some people from one of your classes. You can walk up to them and go “You’re in my __ class right? Do you mind if I sit with you?” This is actually how I met one of my friends. They noticed me from our science class and joined in with me at lunch.

If you let your shyness persist then people will be more likely to think you’re weird. Strike up conversations with people in class before the class actually starts. You can maybe turn around to the person who sits behind you, or tap on the shoulder of the person in front of you and introduce yourself. Be really friendly, ask them their name, and you can maybe also ask them if they’re in any of your other classes. That way you can continue on your conversation and not just have it immediately cut off after you introduce yourselves.

If people need help with their homework or classwork, you can help them and this is another way to make friends. One person in my class had trouble finding another class that I happened to be in, and I offered to walk with them to the class. That’s how I became friends with them.

Remember, small things turn into bigger things. A small friendly conversation can turn into a bigger conversation the next day, and so on, until a friendship is formed.

Talk to the people sitting next to you in your classes. I’m sure not everyone went to freshman orientation so you still have a chance and people come in and out of cliques. Don’t stress, people can be surprisingly nice.

honey don’t worry – you will be in classes with different people – all year long – you will make friends I promise.

Try to come out of that shyness – alot of people mistake shy for stuck up. Try making some eye contact and speak.

i understandd, when i went to my orientation a month ago, i felt the same way 🙁

but i was sitting in tables with girls but still they didnt talk to me, well almost not everyone was talking to no one, anyhow… are u talking of a high school freshmen or college freshmen? cause if u are talking of a college freshmen i tihnk thats very immature of them to have a little clique and you shoulnt be all worried about fitting in, but if its high school, dont worry anyhow you’ll make new friends in your classrooms, somone who you dont have to go out of your wy to impress

What are your hobbies? Maybe you should try doing them at school during breaktimes. Someone’s bound to get interested and ask you about it. It would be a great icebreaker.