Well, first off, it sounds like you have a pretty neat kid. Everyone I know, including me, struggled their first year in college. It’s a huge change. College requires strong study habits, and as simple as that sounds, folks just don’t realize this. The dedication that she demonstrated in her extracurricular activities is the same dedication she can redirect to her studies. And, I bet she will. Like all things, she has to practice and learn the behaviors that work best for her. I’m not sure if she is away at school or commuting, but when she is home, try to promote an environment in which studying is relaxing. Offer to take her to the library or to Starbucks to “chill” and enjoy the atmospheres that promote reading. Help her identify with the “image” of studying. Some of us do well laying down, some sitting up, some listening to classical music, some watching TV (although TV never worked for me). Find out how your daughter best learns. These are not behaviors that are intrinsic, they are learned. You’re a good mom 🙂

I think u already know the answer! College is huge adjustment, she’s probably wasting precious study time with other social activities. Some kids go party crazy, or start pledging Greek life, develop new interest and don’t study enough.

U can’t make the choices 4 her, she has too. U can be supportive & tell her U will never misled her as others will. Well meaning new friends, people who r time wasters luv to sink the new kid…

Usually every campus has tutorial programs, she needs to learn various methods of studying 4 classes she’s pursuing. For every hr she in class, she should be reviewing, reading and studying appox 3-4 hrs per class. Which means she has little free time.

She needs to be organized, plan out her schedule, allocated time to excercise, meals and yes have alittle down time to do laundry, and hang with friends. She needs to be disciplined w/herself to forgo the party or other social activity to get further ahead in studies. Nutrition and sleep r key. She needs both to excel.

Reassure her that no matter what she is luved, can come home and maybe start at the local comm college. Not all kids mature and some in the beginning need their family around to be successful in the beginning. There is no shame in needing family nuturing in the beginning. Ur DD is smart, sometimes the transcition is just too overwhelming and u need to back track alittle.

But til the student accepts responsibility for their choices, seeks help from school, and develops contacts 2 succeed it usually gets alittle worse b4 getting better. She will find her way, she has just chosen to take a HARD ROAD to bounce back. It happens, be supportive & encouraging her to find the right staff to help her overcome obstacles.

This is an interesting problem. I believe that the activities and their influence on academics is important to examine. Some students do not participate in activities at all, I would be proud if my child were given the opportunities to participate in the great programs you have mentioned. I am sure you are.

The influence of parents in this case, may have stopped her from being as busy, but that is all dependent on the child and their capabilities. You have to put your sensors on to feel when a child is burdened or her studies are being adversely affected.

Two issues here:

Any time out of a class- you are going to miss something important or fall behind on the process. Math, science and history are all sequential and you lose a step when you are out. Also, skipped homework assignments have a similar effect.

Activities themselves give a student a unique way to enrich their lives. She may not have been able to approach people who are important to her success in college if she hadn’t stepped outside of her comfort zone through the activities. There is more than one way to learn about history and concepts- travel and experience make us stronger and more intelligent people.

yes,i do think it affects academics.

i am a student and i am studying in a school that doesn’t have much extracurricular activities. i noticed that students in my school get more time to focus on academics which is good.

on the other hand,studying without much extracurricular activities makes school life a little boring. there are times when it feels like we don’t have any inspiration to study for we are not having fun. being too much drowned in books isn’t really learning. also,how about our talents and potentials? 🙂

it would be better if schools would balance academics and extracurricular activites. i think through balancing,there would be a change in the students’ performance.

as for the parents,i think they should do things that could help balance these.

i beg to differ education is imp but u know extra curricular helps the child discover his/her talents

u may not be a bookworm but with little efforts & hardwork u can always cope up

but the confidence & the personality build up comes with extra curricular activities only…

the struggle she is doing is good & it will reap her good results

all d best 4 her future

I am all for giving kids something to get involved in and I regret that music is considered not important in many school districts across America.