My son who is 16 yrs is not having much of interest in his studies. He is more interested in his looks.?

He was studying very well until his 9th standard and suddenly lost interest when he entered his 10th standard. It was totally out of fear that he may not perform well. We had to motivate him a lot and we provided him plenty of support. He was able to complete his 10th standard with 78%. Now we had put him in a Diploma Course after taking his consent He agreed to pursue the course. He had successfully completed the Ist year with 67%. Now he is in the second year. We have been pulling him and supporting all along the first year. Now we are trying to make him independent, but he is not willing to do so. He has various complaints from his teachers that he is not attentive in the class room. We as parents have strictly warned him that he better take his Transfer Certificate and do what ever he feels better. He is willing to discontinue his studies, since the college is very strict. Now Kindly advice us what we should do about his education.

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A few days ago

Lacey S

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i hate to say this but…..this is normal for a 16 year old

A few days ago

There seems to be an underlying situation here — there must be a reason why your son lost interest in school. Most kids I know at age 16 do care more about looks vs. education; however, when they begin failing, they know to go on to college they need to get their act together.

As suggested, sit down with your son and sit down with a supportive counselor and find out what is going on. What are his ultimate life goals as far as his career?

You also said, “We have been pulling him and supporting all along the first year. Now we are trying to make him independent, but he is not willing to do so.” In my opinion, you should not pull him through and make him independent. He is 16! He has the choice to do that on his own. Being supportive is great, but you cannot make him be independent. It sounds like with all the pulling through he has become dependent on you more than anything, figuring that he does not need to work hard because his parents will take care of everything for him. Maybe you need to just be supportive and let him fall.

You also may want to check out his friends — has he started hanging out with a new group? Has his behavior been drastic or extreme? With his loss of interest, he could be getting into some things such as drugs and alcohol. I have seen that a lot as a counselor.

Good luck.

5 years ago

Anonymous

I don’t have a kid with a disability you mentioned but my nephew also has Aspergers. His parents had a struggle with the homeschooling and decided to place him in a catholic school. Where we are they are smaller class sizes and easier to find the help that is needed. It took two different schools before they found one that was able to get him the help he needed and now he is doing wonderful. I wouldn’t give up if I were you I understand your concern. Keep fighting there has to be something someone can do, he has a right to an education just as any one does. Can you maybe homeschool him over the summer just for those courses. I hope I helped a little, I only answered because of an interest in children like your son. I want to be able to work with them as a career choice in the schools. I am hoping to be able to go back to school soon to start the courses I need. Keep your head up you are doing a great job.

A few days ago

seforemo

first you guys should all sit down away from any distractions. and ask him about his dreams and what he wants to do with his life. at his age peer pressure and hormones are out of control. get him to talk and you do all the listening. give him your advise that if it was you and you had a second chance you would have done better in school. let him know that what he does now will affected his future! if he is interested in girls let him know the girls in college are better. if his marks were 90% he would most likely get a scholarship to any college.

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My son who is 16 yrs is not having much of interest in his studies. He is more interested in his looks.?

My son who is 16 yrs is not having much of interest in his studies. He is more interested in his looks.?

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