A few days ago

I’m a Junior and college and I don’t know what I want to do!!! (except quit) I really hate school!!! HELP

I’m a 33 year old mother of 3. Had my children and got married young (21). Now I’m divorced, working full time, and attending school. My days and nights are hectic. I hate college. I know it’s a rip off (Gen.Ed requirments especially!). I also know I want to secure a better future for my children. The problem is I have never really had the time to think/dream of what I wanted to do. Now I have to do something but I don’t know what and I feel like I’ll be waisting time trying to decide. I’m so frustrated and I feel stuck because I have to be an example for my children and I want to give them a better life than I had….but did I say I HATE SCHOOL????

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A few days ago
wisdomdude

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First and foremost, know yourself. Ideally, I think it best to do something that you truly, deeply, passionately enjoy doing…something you would do anyway even for no pay…this way, if you are lucky to find a job in that area…you will enjoy your work…and they pay you to do what you enjoy…Wow!! (It happened that way for me!)

Here’s what I suggest: Pretend you won the world’s biggest lottery and would never ever have to work or worry about money forever. If that were true, ask yourself what you would do to keep from becoming bored each day. (write the list on a sheet of paper…but make 3 columns, and make your list in the left column. Then fold up the paper and put it away for a few days.

A few days later, take out the list and look at each item carefully. For each thing you like to do, try to figure out A) what is so intellectually/mentally exciting about it for you? (and put those things in the center column)….and then B) what physical activity is associated with the things you like to do (and list those things in the right column).

When you are done, you have an inventory of the things you like to do, and why you like to do them (knowledge and skills). Now the grand prize is to figure out what job exists in the world that deals with your areas of interest that requires the knowledge and skills you either have or are interested in….so in essence, you want to find a job that pays you do to do what you would normally want to do anyway.

Once you identify that dream job or some prospective jobs, check them out in two ways…salary/career info, and knowledge/skills inventory.

For the salary/career info, try something like www.salary.com. Use it to find out the typical career path and salary/benefits…and what the pay is like in different parts of the country.

For a free copy of the US Dept of Labor SCANS lists, a knowledge/skills inventory for work, visit http://www.neighborhoodlink.com/public/c…

There are a number of ways to use these lists. Start with a self-inventory. Then use it to inventory a job description for any job you might be interested in. You can get job descriptions for these other jobs and inventory them using the SCANS lists to see how close a match your personal inventory comes to the job descriptions. The closer the match, the higher the probability of success and enjoyment in that job. You can also use the lists to inventory what you learned from any classes you take….and to see if the classes are giving you the knowledge and skills needed for the job you want.

And then, think about a Plan B. Things have a way of changing on you and through your life. Once you pick a goal, think about what is closely related to your major that you also like, and could easily switch to if your original major or plan didn’t quite work out. If you change majors (and I changed mine 7 times in the first 2 years of college….so I can related to your feeling mixed up), you want to be able to change to something that won’t require starting all over…something that can make use of some or most of the classes you have already taken.

So it all gets back to knowing yourself.

Also, consider checking on the job market…now, and in the future when you will be graduating. To do this visit http://www.bls.gov/oco/home.htm Also check the websites for your State employment office…they may have similar job forecasts more specific to your state.

Hope this helps you. Best wishes.

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A few days ago
k monster
Think back to what your passion was as a child. They say that if you follow that line of thinking that you will find a rewarding career. All fantasy aside though, think about what you enjoy doing. Is there any thing about that enjoyable experience that you could turn into a career. Also think about if you like dealing with people or not or how much activity you would like in a job (Ex: do you want to sit at a desk all day or be able to move around more). Hopefully these suggestions will help you out a bit.

As far as school is concerned, no one likes it. Especially as you get closer to the end it gets harder to stay focused. You have great motivation with your kids for that one though! But hopefully once you start mixing in your core curriculum classes with your gen ed stuff you should become more interested in your classes. If not, take a break with an art class or a physical education class to get a break from all the studies and get some gen ed credits in as well!

Good luck and congrats for being such a good example!!!

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A few days ago
massofmatter
what are hobbies or things you enjoy doing?

Realestate? things like working out you could be a personal trainer think out what you love!!!!

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