Even if there is actual 50/50 custody (as opposed to say, 50/50 physical and 0/100 legal), schools often have a records system that holds one primary address. When a mailing has to go out, someone clicks a mouse and a printer spits out one address label per student.

It’s best to have whichever parent is in the school records as primary address this– schools get lots and lots of angry phone calls from non-custodial parents trying to do an end run around their custody decrees, so if the custodial parent of record makes the request to have your child’s record flagged for double-mailings, it will carry more weight.

And, frankly, if a high school child is upset to witness this, the high school child should say something to the teachers. I have more than once witnessed a child who says to teachers, “You only need to notify the one parent; my other one has nothing to do with me” and then turns to the upset other parent and says, “Gosh, mom/dad, I don’t know why they’re doing this. It sure makes me upset too.”

In the case of a divorce, there is usually a custodial parent. This is usually the parent on record at the school. It isn’t meant to be anything personal towards the other parent. It has a lot to do with the laws that are in place. If you are being left out of the loop at your child’s school, talk to your ex (if possible) and make sure that you are being kept informed of what is happening. If that is not possible, then call the school and ask to speak to the counselor. He/she should be able to help you get the information that the primary parent is receiving. If the counselor isn’t a big help, talk to the principal, and if necessary, the central office administration. I know it can be a sticky situation. Also, sometimes the teacher does not know the entire family situation. I am sure it is not intentional that that this is happening to you. Just make sure that all parties involved know and understand that you want to be kept informed just as much as the primary parent. As a teacher, we want both parents involved 100% in a child’s education. Actually, all it may take is a phone call to your child’s teacher to start getting the information that you want. Good luck!

schools favor the parent who has been granted primary care by the courts. Someone needs to take responisiblity for the child, and the courts determine who that is in a divorce. The secondary parent only has as many rights as the court and the primary parent grant. The school cannot get involved in this or do anything the primary parent does not allow. You imply that this is not always in the best interests of the child; unfortunately, sometimes children suffer when parents do not get along.

via regulation, the parent with prevalent custody has the say in legal concerns except the college is counseled in any different case. Now mom and dad with joint custody have equivalent rights..the two can take transport of document taking part in cards, get admission to to documents, equivalent rights to attend instructor conferences or the different form of placement and assesment conferences, however the college could learn this and given the perfect touch counsel to stay with up on it. in spite of the shown fact that, in circumstances of different than joint custody, the non-custodial parent can basically learn or recieve counsel if the custodial parent requests this and indications thier approval. it incredibly is tough, yet that’s the only way colleges can shelter the two themselve and thier scholars in circumstances the place the non-custodial parent has lost privelages for extremely valid motives..abuse, drugs, tries to take the toddler. the main suitable element mom and dad can do whilst they chop up is to make specific what counsel the college can and would possibly no longer share with non-custodial mom and dad is interior the custody contract and to offer the college with a replica to maintain interior the pupil’s documents. the two mom and dad could be sure to deliver in notes, alongside with yet another reproduction of the custody contract, to each college room instructor. it could take time for counsel to filter out from the workplace to the class, pretty on the commencing up of the 12 months. via informing the two the college and the instructor, all human beings will understand from the get circulate what can and could no longer be shared and with whom.

Everyone is afraid of lawlyers.