I think if you asked to see the tape WITH YOUR SON so that he could see exactly what happened and have it talked over, that would be okay. To ask to see it because you are suspicious about a teacher who has actually done nothing wrong (and I’m confused as to why you would even think it’s wrong–she didn’t hit him, shove him, spank him or anything like that) is going too far.

In addition, how dare she use words or tones that would make your darling son run away from her!!!! Provocation if I ever heard any. She should definitely get fired.

THEN, on top of everything else, she followed through with her expectation of his behavior by going and getting him. Instead, she should have kindly and softly called to him and wooed him into coming over to her. How dare she!

I can see why your son kicked her. And she definitely shouldn’t have carried a kicking screaming child. She should have pulled him by his arm and led him into the school while he was struggling with her so that he suffered the common problem of elbow dislocation – nurse maids elbow -, OH NO, THAT’S NOT RIGHT!!! forget that, she should have just let him go and play and tended to all the other kids on the playground that she was neglecting because of her overreaction to your son’s behavior. You should get those poor children’s parents involved too. Then watch the video together and don’t forget the popcorn.

As far as the video tapes- they are there for a reason, not to ‘look cool’ so yes, ask to have a look, put those cameras to good use!

Your son hit a child then ran away when asked to come to the teacher. He then hit and kicked the teacher when she “grabbed him.” Does grab mean she merely placed her hands on him or used unnecessary pressure?

– Was your son hurt?

– What would you have the teacher do instead, if you feel this was an over reaction?

Like you I can’t defend your son, but I also can’t condemn the teacher (unless they wilfully hurt your son) given their duty of care to the other children. You might request that he be placed under great supervision when in the playground, and the teacher in question do playground duty in another area.