I think you should show your parents this question. You explained your concerns in a clear and mature way and showed that you are understanding of your parents’ point of view and that you appreciate it. I’m sure your parents will understand you not wanting to be judged by your lunch pail. High school can be a tough and scary place sometimes. Your parents probably remember that. Good luck. You sound like a great kid!

It’s not meant to be a punishment to the other children, but it’s necessary to protect the allergic children. I’m a college student with a scent allergy to seafood, and even though I don’t go anywhere near a cafeteria or anywhere where people eat, I’ve still encountered people eating tuna in the hallways or in classes. As soon as I smell it, I go into anaphylactic shock. My throat swells shut, I can’t breathe at all, and it feels like someone is choking me to death. Even though I carry an epi-pen, there’s no guarantee it will bring me out of the anaphylaxis, and it’s like this for everyone who has this type of allergy. God forbid, but if this happened to your child when he or she smelled peanuts or any other food, wouldn’t you want to do everything possible to ensure his or her safety? All these parents want is for their kids to go to school and be safe, which is just what every other parent wants. My mother worries every day when it’s time for lunch that I’ll be safe. If it was your child, would you rather the schools not have peanut butter around, or would you rather that they did and every day your child went there he or she would run the risk of a fatal reaction? The world has not gone insane. Making an accommodation like this is no different than making accommodations for those in wheelchairs. How is this accommodation unfair when without it these children could die? Food allergies and scent allergies are on the rise. Even though someone carries an epi-pen and uses it, one or two shots of it doesn’t guarantee that the person will come out of the reaction at all, or in time to survive. It’s a scary thing to live with because you live minute-to-minute. What do I suggest as a solution? I suggest that the peanuts and peanuts products be banned from schools. Why? Because it won’t kill the non-allergic child if they can’t have a peanut butter sandwich until they get home, but it will kill the allergic child if they smell it. Surely, the non-allergic children can last the 6 hour school day without peanut butter, and I’m also sure they can find something else to eat. This is about what is ethical here, not about unfair punishment. Do you think these parents want their children to have food allergies? Do you think they want to think every day when they send their child to school that they could die from a reaction? Would you want your child to have this condition? Of course not! So why can’t you accept the fact that this needs to be done to PROTECT lives? Would it be ethical to not allow an accommodation for someone with a physical disability? No! So how is it ethical to allow peanut butter when it could kill a child? Bottom line: these children are innocent victims of a horrible condition, and people should understand that this is not their fault or something exaggerated. Everything should be done to protect the lives of others.

Now really – you are the same person who can leave the house dressed appropriately for school and when you get there, you change into your funky clothes, right? Well, you do the same thing with your lunch PAIL – (do you really have a lunch pail??) Buy yourself a cool carrying “bag” that doesn’t look lunchy – and bring it in that. Lots of good stuff out there to choose from. It almost sounds like you want to buy your lunch instead though…maybe start off gently with your parents and ask if you can buy your lunch on Fridays. Then work into it around the third month of school and ask for Thursdays AND Fridays? Good luck. It’s a shame that kids will judge you on your lunch container. Be yourself and don’t worry about your lunch stuff — Have a good year!

Actually a lot of high schoolers bring their lunch to school because the school lunches aren’t very good. Try bringing it in a brown paper bag. If you still don’t want to bring your lunch don’t hide it. Tell your mom you’re too old for a lunch box and you want to buy lunch. It’s not like she’ll get mad or something. It’s no big deal really. I just entered high school too!Hope it helps!

Well, you could just not live your life according to what other people think. If you don’t think that you are a loser, then no one else will, lunch pail or not. Have some confidence, and realize that there are more important things than how you get your lunch everyday. A lot of other people bring their lunch too.

But since you seem to have already made up your mind, just tell them what you told us. No whining, no shouting, just calmly tell them that it’s important to you, and how you appreciate their efforts to feed you healthy food. And if they don’t accept the fear-of-being-loser reason, then just tell them that you have a lot of books to carry around at school, and it’s more convenient to buy your lunch there, rather than dragging it around all day.

PS–Your parents are probably tired of making the lunch anyway.

There are a lot of kids at my high school that bring their lunch– mainly because the food is horrible. Not to point out the cliques, but a lot of the cheerleaders and football players (yes.. football players) bring their own lunch box in everyday.

Just be yourself— if someone is going to judge you because you bring your lunch then you shouldn’t even consider them as a friend.

You are who you are, and your self-consciousness in worrying about this also shows who you are. It is fine to bring lunch to school, and don’t worry what others think. Do you seriously think that anyone would think less of you for bringing a nutritious meal with you to school? I doubt it.

If you want to hide it, then put your lunch in a large zip-lock bag and put it in the small pocket of your back pack. The sandwiches may be scrunched up but at least your pride wont be.

one day whaen the’re in a good mood just tell them

maybe put it in those brown paper sacks and put it inside your backpack..?