A few days ago
liliana

How would you feel if ….?

You came up to your childs teacher and asked if she was interested in attending a positive discipline work shop and she responded that she was busy that day and plus they only allowed her to take a certain amount of work shops ( she clarified and said there was no money.) She gave me back the paper work. She said this to me even though I mentioned that one of the work shops was for free. I felt soooo bad. I was imbarrased and I felt like crying. I’m wondering If I offended her ? I feel discouraged because I thought all teachers loved to learn. I’m a teacher myself not working at the time, and still attend workshops even if I pay for them. I buy, read books about child development. Am I just being sensitive ???????

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A few days ago
SPED Teacher

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I understand that it was embarrassing for you, but try to look at it from her perspective. Attending a workshop that the school didn’t approve or pay for would mean she would have to take a personal day or give up a day off if the workshop was on a weekend. I’m a special education teacher, and I enjoy learning new methods and going to conferences, but there are so many available that it is impossible to go to every one. I don’t have enough money in my budget to pay for most workshops and I try to keep my personal days for family. It would have been diplomatic of her to just thank you for the information, and disposing of the paperwork later. That’s probably what I would have done.
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A few days ago
lacey
This is a tricky question to answer. It depends on how you approached her with the idea of the workshop. If you had said to her that you are a teacher and you heard of this workshop that you’re interested in checking out about positive discipline and that you’re curious as to what new techniques they’re going to come up with and asked casually what she thinks of those kinds of workshops…and after hearing her response offer to send her the paperwork if she’s interested in going and she declined because of the constraints then yes you are being sensitive.

However, if you approached her in a manner that gave her any the impression that you thought that she was ineffective in terms of class management…then you probably inadvertently offended her and she was attempting to get away from you as quickly and as politely as possible.

Take a step back and review how you approached the subject. What may seem like an interesting thing to you, may not be to another teacher. Indeed perhaps she has already attended similar workshops. Like you said, you’re not working right now, but look at it from the perspective a teacher who is at the start of term extremely pressed and is trying to ensure that the terms gets underway well. Then think of how you would feel if a parent came to you with paperwork on a workshop about positive discipline. Be perfectly honest, you’d wonder if this parent thought you were incompetent and be hurt by this overture.

Sometimes we need to take a step back and look at it from the other person’s perspective.

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A few days ago
Anonymous
Don’t feel bad. Since you are a teacher you know she is probably being honest. It takes SO much just to go to a simple workshop in many districts. I know in our district we have to have it approved by the Professional Development Committee, the principal, and the superintendent. And that’s if we have the money. Sometimes if they don’t see the befits of that particular one (even if its free), they wont want to do it because they have to pay for a sub.

I as a teacher would probably be a bit offended and think that you think I am a negative person (which sadly some teachers are). Positive Behavior Management is a HUGE deal to me and have seen incredible effects of it in my classes of all age (1 year old to 6th grade) through out the years and have heard positive reactions from other teachers as well.

Because the teacher really has little control over what professional development she attends I would recommend it to the principal.

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A few days ago
Miss Answers 2007
Teachers are people outside of the classroom. Perhaps on this particular day, she really was busy. Maybe she had a doctor’s appointment, a day out with her kids, maybe she cares for her sick mother?

You don’t know.

I wouldn’t think anything about it. She has a life outside of school…..she’s not Mrs. Teacher everyday

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A few days ago
sea_sher
Dont feel embarassed, you offered and she said no.. Its not a big deal. Not everyone enjoys going to workshops. Im sure that you didnt offend her, she just wasnt interested.
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