I am always willing to respond to parent check-ups on kids. I have seen good results when parents are actively involved in what goes on at school. They can back up the teacher on issues like study skills and discipline. I don’t advise emailing constantly, but an occasional (every couple of weeks) check is great. If the kid knows she can’t get away with anything, there won’t be many problems.

Some of the answers above me mentioned trust issues as a reason for not checking. I disagree. If you check up on her and every time you check, you get a good report, it will build your trust in her and you will be more willing to allow her to have other freedoms. You are not there to be her best friend, you have to be the responsible adult, and it is your job to make sure she does what she is supposed to do.

don’t worry, you will be great.