It is not illegal to talk to not talk to your Dad. I don’t know your situation, but talking things out is usually more productive than the silent treatment.

If he sues for full custody, than the judge will probably ask for your opinion, but ultimately it will be the judge who decides who you live with.

Whether he can make you go back to school depends first upon the laws in your state, province, or country. In the US, most states would not require you to go to school once you have a diploma whether you got it from public, private, or homeschool. If the law requires that you still be in school or homeschooled, than he can petition the court to require that homeschooling end and that you return to school.

No it’s not illegal to talk to your dad. It’s not uncommon to “hate” one or more of your parents at this age.

You sound like a young 15 yr old, but I have to ask why you hate your dad so much? Has he abused you in any way or has your mom spoken bad about him?

As far as you choosing where you live, most states allow you to be 12 to decide which parent to live with unless there are extreme circumstances such as child abuse.

If your father obtains custody of you and depending on the timing, yes you could be made to go back to school and you should do whatever it takes to get your diploma.

Talk to your mom about these questions also because I don’t know where you live and what the laws are. If your mother is taking very good care of you, she will be able to answer these questions for you because you are not of legal age.

Good luck, I hope your dad is really not so bad or has physically hurt you in case you do end up living with him.

The answers to all your question depend on the jurisdiction you live in. Here the law can require you to attend school until 18 diploma or not. They can require apprenticeship or college or trade school.

If you sues and wins you have to follow the court order no matter where you live.

Never heard of a Judge who wouldn’t take your wishes into consideration however there may be other factors such as undue influence by your Mother, especially since you haven’t talked to him in so long,.

Here a parent may only homeschool a child if the parent has a university degree from a recognized institution (recognized by the province)

There was a case here just last week where the judge had ordered the mother to make the child (also 15) available for visit with her father. She refused several times and it went to court several times. Mother is now in jail for contempt of court and father has full custody. Mother no longer has even has visiting rights. Child case workers and the court decided the mother was brainwashing the child against the father.

I am considering the fact that you are 15 yrs old and a young adult in training at that age. So it means when you ask a question you have to understand that the truth may not be what you want to hear.

I am not sure of the details as to why your father wishes to take your mother to court. However, if it has to do with you not going to school then the truth is he has a great chance that he will win.

At age 15 the courts look at the individual as old enough to make wise choices. However, when they see a 15 yr old not attending school that places them thinking that you are not looking after yourself or your best interest nor is your mother. Sorry, but that is what the court is going to see.

So at 15, I place this upon you. You need to go back to school and show that no matter if you like it or not your there. Your going to find things in life that you just do not like but you can not quit.

As far as the fact your getting your diploma in 2 months, concerns me. If your not attending school then may I aks how your getting this diploma. I am sure many other students would like to know how to do this.

If your speaking your GED. The court will still order you back to school until age 18 or until you have the diploma. As far as if your father can win this in court. The truth is he has a good chance. So if you love your mother and yourself, then be the responsible 15 yr old and go back to school. The court will then think you made a wise choice and they will probably leave you with your mother. I can not promise this without knowing all details. Lower the stress on your mom and get back to school.

I wish I had dad troubles, mine died when I was 18. I’m not sure why he wants custody of you, maybe living with your mom is not the best, I don’t know. You didn’t tell us enough information.

But as for the school part, I am a home school mother, and by law you have a right not to go to school, but your mom has to fill out the proper paperwork for you to be home schooled.

Since you are about to get your diploma in a couple of months, I see no need for you to go back to school.

If only your dad knew the dangers at that place, it’s not a safe place for girls. I’m glad your not in high school, you are better for it.

OK, so I’ll try to answer each question individually the best I can.

First, your dad has a right to see you my dear. Like it or not, he is indeed your father. So unless he has abused you physically or emotionally, then he has a right to see you (visit with you, that is).

Second, no, he cannot force you to live with him unless he can prove that your mother is incapable of taking care of you properly. If you were to tell a judge you don’t want to live with him, then in all likelihood the judge would honor that request.

Finally, why are you not in school? Are you being home schooled? In my state, you are not allowed to quit school at the age of 15. If I were a judge, I would question why your mother has allowed you to not attend school. If, on the other hand, she is home schooling you, then this is perfectly acceptable and you cant be forced otherwise.

Hope that helps. Bottom line, I hope that you can learn to love your father again. Hate is an unhealthy emotion, and one that will come to hurt you as much as it is hurting him.

I have found, in my lifetime, that forgiveness is such a healing thing, and it has made my life so much better.

Wishing you many blessings.

first of all, there has to be a reason that you hate your dad. that is none of our business. but if your reasons are legitimate, then no one can make you live with him. is he supposed to have visitation rights? does he pay child support? there are a lot of questions in order to answer your question. if you haven’t spoken to him since christmas, then he will probably not sue for custody. most states would not make a minor your age live with a father they didn’t want to live with. if anything ever happened to your mother, then he would get custody unless he had previously signed over his rights. being 15 is not easy and i am sure the both of you do not understand each other as you need to but that all depends on the reasons you hate him.

I haven’t talked to my dad since I was 11 or 12. No, it’s not illegal.

If he sues for custody, the only way you’d be forced to live with him is if he gained full custody. That’s not likely to happen given your age and your disdain for him. Unless, of course, he can prove that your mother is completely unfit.

If he gains full custody, then he can force you back to school. Otherwise, no. And if he gained full custody, it’s doubtful it would take place within the next 2 months. Custody issues take many months, sometimes years, to be resolved.

No you don’t have to talk to anyone you don’t want to.

After 12 you can say who you want to live with but that may vary from state to state.

How can he make you go back to school if you are done with it. Unless he wants to pay for your collage education. Take him up on that, it is real expensive.

Check out this google address. It has all the web address about the legal age and each state.

One other thing. You only have one father. If he dies you will regret not talking to him for the rest of your life.

Whilst i’m not sure what your dad has done to make you so angry, no he cannot force you to talk to him. Even at 15 you have rights within the legal system that protect your best interests. My parents separated when I was 12 and it was probably one of the most difficult times to go through. I’m glad I learnt to forgive him before he died (at 54) and I was only 18. We all make mistakes, to forgive can help. If you are continuing your education outside of school he cannot force you to go back to school. There are options available to you (with government assistance) such as counselling which have helped me to discuss issues I was afraid to bring up at home. All the best, keep your chin up. Remember there is always assistance out there for teenagers.