A few days ago
renee1

I was wondering if someone who is in their 40’s going to college could date one of the professors?

He stares at me all the time and is not much older than me. He also asked me if I was married. I would love to date him, is this alright?

Top 6 Answers
A few days ago
bethanne

Favorite Answer

Oh, for goodness’ sakes (I’m 45, so I can say that), NO!

He’s you’re teacher! And just because he asked you if you were married – I’m assuming not – doesn’t mean he may want to date you (sorry to be harsh…), plus I’m sure the other students in the class could consider any grade you get to be an easy one.

Those of us who are not teenagers should realize the ethical issues regarding dating one’s professor. If he were not your teacher, that wouldn’t be an issue.

If you can stand it, just wait until the end of the class, when the grades are in and tallied, to consider dating him.

1

A few days ago
Breezy
I would not go there until you are out of his class and sure you will not have another class with him again. After that, then I’d think it’s okay. But it’s not a good- or ethical- idea to get involved with him while he’s in a position of power. What if the relationship tanks and he gives you a big ol’ F on a paper? You’d have a tough case to prove he did it b/c you broke up.
0

A few days ago
Thomas M
If you’re still in his class, it’s definitely a violation of professional ethics for him to date you. If you’re done with his class, and there’s no chance that he’ll ever be in some supervisory role over you again, then ethically, it’s OK, but it still might not be allowed by the college. Many schools have a blanket policy of no faculty dating undergraduates.
2

A few days ago
mahakala_00
No it would be unethical on his part because it causes a conflict of interest and could lead to him being put on a mandatory leave of absence or probation for it. You should check in the student handbook because it usually states the proper protocol for student-teacher relations.
0

A few days ago
ballewthebear
Ask him if he is interested in a date after the semester.
0

A few days ago
Snarf
If you are not in his class, then I don’t see why not. You are both adults as long as he does not get in trouble at his school for you being in his class I think ethically it is just fine.
0