you have to apply to atleast five school one of them being a safety (one that you know who will get into just in case you don’t get accepted to any other).

believe me you don’t want to end up with no schools and spend your summer looking for a community college that still has room for admission.

Wow, that’s quite a reaction. I almost suspect there is more going on, and maybe she has other reasons for wanting you to go to SUNY or other things going on in her life that have made her overreact that at another time she would’ve handled better. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Definitely need to address it delicately. Maybe try getting her and your father to sit down and talk calmly about your college decision. Show how serious and important this is to you and that you’ve given it a lot of thought, not just staying close to home out of convenience. List your reasons for why you want to go to Baruch. Let her list her reasons for wanting you to go to SUNY and/or for not wanting you to go to CUNY. And your father too; maybe he has some insight. And answer their questions: What can you do to make sure that you get the full college experience if you stay in town? What campus activities will you join? Will you live at home all four years or stay in a dorm or apartment? Are there summer internships or study programs you could enroll in that would allow you to spend time in another city? Perhaps you would like to do a Junior Year Abroad program? There are a lot of ways you can get different experiences without it being at a party school. I really doubt she will pack up and leave over your college choice; if she is seriously considering doing that, then there are other reasons and it is NOT your fault. More likely she’s just upset and saying anything to stop you from doing what she thinks is a bad idea. Find out what she’s thinking and do your best to reassure you that this is the best thing for you.

you should apply anyway as a safety, in case you dont get into howard or hampton.