You love this person but he/she doesn’t loves you.

He or she goes for the person he/she wants and if he/she gets accepted, you’re left out alone and heartbroken.

And if the person accepts you out of sympathy, he or she will find their true-love one day and dumps you.

Also, despite in a long-term relationship, SOME (not all) could go sour and quarrel prevails… next thing you know, BANG! Breakup happens and you cry your eyes out.

I’ve been rejected, thus heartbroken many times that I’m just used to it – believe it anot, I’ve never been in a relationship and always get to see my crush falls in love and gets accepted by other people. Dammit…

In conclusion, if someone were to ever found their ‘true love’, then congrats… if not, be prepared for the staggering moments.

PCD is experienced as the levels of the neurotransmitters serotonin and dopamine decline after a crisis or “peak experience” (See Maslow). I use the trauma analogy because it is similar to love in its unpredictability and inevitability.

Translated to love, our body is flooded with the neurotransmitters serotonin and dopamine, which are necessary to support the feelings of euphoria, sexual magnetism, and intimacy. These neurotransmitters ebb and flow in response to internal and external stimuli, and create feelings of sadness or suffering. One’s internal narrative (optimistic or pessimistic) decides whether to act upon this biochemical process or not. Some research points to cultural and religious influence on this process too (but I believe these are also regionally imposed narratives). Some schools of Buddhism teach that suffering is life, while others teach that suffering is an illusion.

The key is to learn to identify this process in your self and to manage maladaptive outcomes. Remember pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.