A few days ago
Anonymous

Help with writing a letter to teacher about my child’s behavior?

I need help writing a letter to my child’s teachers (high school) about my daughter’s behavior. It seems as tho my daughter comes home and lies about not having homework just so she can be lazy, i looked at her hall pass log, and every teacher lets her out of the classroom to use the bathroom or go to some other place in the building whether it be the office, etc. I dont want her leaving class, i want her in class learning. She does not need to use the bathroom every class, and i think she is lying to teachers telling them she has a weak bladder. I want some way of limiting her from leaving the classroom, and i want some way of knowing what her homework assignments are (since she always “forgets” to write them down.) But at the same time i understand teachers are overworked and don’t want to waste their time having to baby my daughter. I guess i’m stuck between a rock and a hard place. Any input on writing this letter would be appreciated. Thanks in advance.

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A few days ago
steveman2hot

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hi mom

yeah i know what u mean. ima freshman and there are some girls in my class that always have to go to the bathroom and there not the bright ones.

I took a mind survey, and the peopel who do that usually has a phone.

well good luck and i hope ur daughter will be alrigh

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A few days ago
The Ninth Cut
Being a teacher, I would say that you should never talk negatively about your child to a teacher. This will give the teacher a blank check to point out your child’s shortcomings and it may be fuel they will use in the future when a problem arises. Though it is illegal to put a letter in the child’s cumulative folder, it has been done. You do not want a letter to follow your child throughout their schooling. Also, if a future problem arises with your child, the teacher will use this letter to support that your child can be untruthful. I recommend that you first talk to your daughter and set up a conference with the teachers and invite your daughter. You need to work in partnership with the teacher and your child. Your daughter is old enough to understand that she is missing out on her learning, but she too needs to have control of the situation.

I think you need to have a face-to-face conference, a letter is not the answer. I also feel there is a root cause why your daughter needs to be out of the classroom. If your teacher talks with you and is able to see your concern, there is no reason why he/she cannot take the time to jot down a daily note to you. Teachers are given planning time, just for problems like this and if your teacher will not do this, you may need to talk to the guidance counselor or principal.

Do not send a letter!!!!

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A few days ago
Molly McTrouble
You don’t need a letter. Call the high school and speak to the counselor or vice-principal. Tell him or her what you just wrote. They can speak with her teachers and get back to you.

Maybe the teachers post their assignments online so you can check.

The bottom line, of course, is her report card. Most high schools send out progress reports around now – halfway through first quarter. How are her grades?

A high school student is difficult to monitor on a daily basis. Work out a system where A’s and B’s earn privileges, and D’s and F’s earn consequences. What you do with C’s depends upon her ability.

Does she want to learn to drive? Does she want to go out? Does she have text-messaging on her cell phone? Those are powerful motivators for high school students.

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A few days ago
prudicat
Go to the school and find out if the teachers have daily class assignments on line or on a voice recording you can phone. If they do you can double check. If not meet with the teachers and work out a schedule to get the assignments, even by mail (offer to provide stamps). Teachers WANT YOUR HELP! They will welcome you with open arms. Just reach out.
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A few days ago
Anonymous
I am a teacher and you should call your daughter’s teacher and tell her all of your concerns. I would want to know any concerns that my parents had and would want to come up with a plan with them.
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5 years ago
Anonymous
Dear teacher, I am writing this letter not from the heart but by force so it will not be sincere. Many apologies for my inappropriate behaviour and I assure you it will not happen again. Sincerely, XXX
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