most kids that are in preschool are not at the level they should be at for there age group and it is to get these kids ready for kindegarden. In the process they may end up learning fast and getting a bit of an edge on other kids. Alot has to do wit how much time we as parents work with our kids on there numbers, letters, spelling of name, colers, shapes, reading to them, at age four and five you can teach them to spell 2 and 3 letter words

I think it honestly depends both on the mother (and home situtation) and the preschool. When my son was young and I went back to work, I was shocked and appalled at the first few preschool/daycares I saw…I wouldn’t drop a rabid wolf off under those conditions. I finally ended up using one that was a 30-minute drive one-way, but it was excellent.

Now working full time (I didn’t have a choice at that time), I obviously couldn’t provide those skills for my son (or leave him alone during the day), and the preschool that I chose was incredible – the teachers were well-trained and they loved on him like crazy. One of the aides there became his babysitter, off-hours, for things like date night or if I got stuck in traffic on the way to pick him up. He learned how to play well with others, and he learned how to stand up to a bully without beating the dickens of them (a 2yo bully gets scared when someone stands up and yells No! in their face), things like that. He learned that I’m not the only mommy-type person in the world who loves him (but that I still love him best).

I was careful to pick a preschool that had an age-appropriate program (everything from when things were played and how long, to feeding and potty-training), and he absolutely loved it. Now that I’m home with him, I can still see the skills he picked up there, and I appreciate it.

Now…can these skills be learned at home with mom? Of course. Preschools have only been around for the last several decades, and young children had social and motor skills during the thousands of years that preceded. There are moms today that are very actively involved with their young children, and you couldn’t tell those children apart from preschool kids. However, stay at home moms do have a better chance of having a better relationship with their kids…I can remember just about crying when my son called the teacher at preschool “mommy”.

It isn’t so much the environment that matters, as the love, care, and effort that is put in. A preschool teacher can teach the skills, and a mom can teach the skills. Just make sure the child is somewhere that the teaching is actually going to happen.

They don’t always, but in my experience, a good preschool allows plenty of opportunities for children to make choices and interact socially, both of which are very important in children’s social and cognitive development. Young children learn best through hands on activities. They need to be able to make choices, both good and bad, to help them understand how things work and why we do the things we do. (Oh, it’s not a good idea to hit your friends? Why? Because then they don’t want to play with you anymore. Next time I’ll try asking for a turn to play with the red truck.) And it helps them figure out that if you stack the blocks too high, they’ll fall down, and if you mix all the paint together you just wind up with a yucky brownish black color. There are plenty of opportunities to learn these things on a daily basis in preschool, while it may be difficult for a mom at home to provide all these experiences. Maybe there’s another baby at home requiring her attention so it’s too hard to get the paints out or make sure the blocks are put away when you’re done. She also has to mop the floor, keep up with the laundry, and start dinner on time. A good mom will involve her child in all these chores and give the child more experiences that way, but sometimes it’s more desirable to send the child into a social setting that is built with the intention of giving the child these experiences.

Children that go to preschool, develop better developmentally because they are given more experience in all developmental areas- ex. large motor, small motor, spatial awareness, etc. Children also learn social and emotional skills because they are around other children their age, they learn to share, take turns, where if they were at home under the watch full eye of their parents they do not learn these skills, because most parents step in to stop when children are not sharing because its natural instinct to protect your child. where at preschool a good teacher would guide them by giving them words to work it out. If a parent is their then they most always side with their child, meaning that their child had the toy first. Where a teacher would not say who is right or wrong, they would just be their to guide the appropriate interaction between the children by giving them opportunities to express their feelings, asking who had the toy first, and teaching children about honesty and accepting responsibility for their actions. Teaching children empathy at a young age, is sometimes difficult but the rewards are great. I have been trained to teach Second Step- which is a curriculum made by the committee for children which is a great curriculum for preschoolers.

i do not think its always the case because i think it depends on the child and the parent (and whether there are siblings and/or play dates) but in general i think preschool is good for kids because it teaches them social skills that get them ready for kindergarten…..its little lthings like learning to share, and waiting their turn and lining up. I think that when their social skills are more developed that they are just ready to learn what they need to in kindergarten. I think preschool just gives kids a leg up for their schooling! I also think though that full time daycare/preschool can be a very long day for little ones. I did not have a choice as my son had to be in fulltime daycare. The negatives were just how tired he was and how hard it is for little kids to be expected to share with 10-12 other kids for 9 hours a day. If i had my way he would have been home 2 or 3 days a week and gone to daycare the rest of the week. Would have been a better balance!

Well, this is just an educated guess, but if you’re talking about social skills, then preschool would obviously help with interaction with new people. Staying at home under the shade of one’s mother’s care will hinder these skills. The child will be intraverted and dependent, and will have a very rough time making it on their own as an adult.

I do not know that this is true. What skills are you inquiring about? My DD is 3.5 and has just started going to pre-school 2 days a week for fun. She is well beyond the other children her age academically and socially. Every day I pick her up she tells me of another child that hit her, or cried all day, or that so and so had to be in time out all day. I know that for 3-4 year olds this is fairly normal, and my DD has her days too. However this behavior is not the norm for her. We are consistantly told how surprised people are when they witness her vocabulary and her skill to engage others in an actual conversation. I do not think she would be the same kid if she had attended preschool prior to now, especially if it were full time.

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Pro: Children learn through interaction with other children. So social norms, sharing, conversing. Being in a pre-school environment develops their social skills.

Con: If conversing with the wrong kids they can pick up bad habits and language and start to act up to parents.

I think it would depend. The biggest part of preschool is the social interaction between the children and learning a routine. My oldest did not go to preschool and did just fine. I remember his kindergarten teacher saying she would have never guessed that he did not go to preschool. He knew all of his letters upper and lower case, could write his first name and was starting to learn how to write his last name. My second went to preschool did not know his letters or how to write his name. My third is going to preschool ( a different one then my second) but more because he was bored at home, he is learning his letters and how to write his name. Now the big talk is about full day kindergarten.

i agree will the social skills being developed more in preschool but I also have to say most children will listen to teachers a lot better than their parents. I’m not say they don’t mind their parents but the parents tent to let things slide. so children know how to get by with things. at school the teacher is someone different with different rules and deals with the children in a different way and surroundings. this helps them to understand that different places and people have different rule that have to be followed. hope this helps