When you look at Eastern societies the collective meaning and actions of love means more than the feeling. Hence why there are more arranged marriages taking place in Africa and Asia. Love is seen more as doing and acting rather than what you feel.

Love should have meaning– after all in many spiritual beliefs, when a spouse truly loves their wife/husband they would put aside their own desires for them. When you love someone, you would sacrifice for them. You would go out of your way to do something nice for them, without ever feeling bitter or resentful, but rather taking joy out of seeing how they react.

I’m getting married and a lot of people tell me “oh after the honeymoon phase you two will just be another couple.” I ignore that because even though I know passionate love will fade somewhat, my love for my fiance won’t fade. We show our care and love for each other through actions and not *just* words. I think that’s the part that has been lost– people rely too much on words and not enough on doing.

If more people acted on their love instead of just spitting words out, there would be a lot more *real* love in the world, and not just broken hearts and promises.

…when I read your question…I thought…that is exactly right….like I feel that way….

…I don’t want to be feeling in love with someone when it is more like not real…just a bunch of feelings…and that’s it…or more of related to sex…not caring….

…think because the way society is now….too easy for most people to just run around for sex and what some people say long term or partners…not real and lasting love…almost like people can change their minds and decide one day they love you and the next they don’t and then it is over…

…I know love is suppose to be great and everything…but other times…it feels like a waste of time…

sometimes, saying “i love you” is just used to catch somebody’s attention, and not reaaly meaning what it is supposed to mean.