First of all you could explain why there is marriage in the first place: For both sexes as role models-for financial, emotional stability and love between the spouses and nurturing for the children. Then what can happen when a child is born out of wedlock-the single mom’s struggle to provide financially with a job and be all things for that child-there by depleting what she has possible to be a happy person.

Then the really scary stuff from having multiple partners-STD’s, AIDS and such.

End with the positive aspects of sharing the joys in raising a family with out as much stress and worries. Family vacations, saving for a good education, love of two working together.

Children need to see that in order to know how to be a good parent themselves. Bad parenting leads to more bad parenting while good parenting leads to more good parenting.

You could put in love is the flame and sex is the smoke because it is the result of love. The bible says the worst sin is sexaul sin because it is sin against the body. Look that verse up on google. The relationship comes first so you can bond. Sex first just messes with that bond and can ruin or destroy the relationship. You have to get to know a person and spend time with them and get married before you have sex. If u have sex first you probably wont know your partner as well. Plus the realtionship has to be based on non physical things. People who have sex before marraige are really not as committed as people who wait until marraige.

Self-respect for one. Few boys / young men want to have sex for any reason but their own pleasure. Statistics show that they seldom stay with a girl very long after they have sex with them, since that makes them lose respect for her.

As I tell my daughter, if he really likes you, he would not ask, nor insist about sex. Pushing is manipulation/coercion. Anyone who actually likes you would never do that. Are you going to have sex with someone who neither likes nor respects you, for their momentary pleasure ? WHY would you do that ?

Their twisted thinking is that if the girl was nice, they wouldn’t being having sex. Since she did, she’s not “nice”, and has probably had sex with a lot of others, so why would he want to be with her. But he’ll tell his friends who will then want to date her to see how quickly they can also have sex with her.

Do you like being an alternative to various immature activities ?

Sex is also somewhat addicting, so your judgement is clouded, and you think you love someone when you just want to have more sex with them. Its not the basis of a relationship, its a distraction from not having much in common besides being the same species.

When you are married, you’ll want to discuss sex with your mother/parent to know how to enjoy it more. Before that, you are embarassed to have your parents know what you are doing. That alone means you should not be doing it.

If you got pregnant, are you prepared to take care of an infant, or will you burden your parents, put it up for adoption, or consider an abortion. Would you want the young man to act like a father, or is he way to immature ? Woud you really want to live with him and be with him most of the next five years ? Can he afford the costs associated with a baby, like a nanny so you can stay in school ? Let alone diapers, food, and clothes ? If you drop out, what are your dreams that you have to put off or give up ? How badly would that break your heart ?

If he could not handle all that, and you can’t either, keep your pants on.

A speech has to come from you. You need notes on points to discuss, not a word for word thing you memorize.

Psychologically, when one has sex prior to marriage, he/she will subconsciously corrode his/her own integrity.

Simply put, marriage is a commitment and intercourse is one of the ways to strenghten the bond.

So when people have intercourse without prior commitment, guilt will naturally arise. Usually they will pretend the guilt is normal and not to be worried but over time their own self-deceiving attitude will bring more calamity to their life, including evasive behavior, blaming others for faults, etc. – all of which are indicative of irresponsible actions.

After all, people without commitment are having intercourse because they succumb to their lust (temporary tempting desire) rather than stick to their personal integrity, which is what distinguishes human from animal.

We go to school to learn to become a human (no offence!).

And only by being a true human do we find eternal happiness.

So there are two points to consider here, purpose and consequences. Good luck with your speech!

This is an answer I gave for a different question, but it also goes with your speech too. the question was “What do you think of sexual relationships before marriage?”

This is what i wrote:

I agree with you, I think it is wrong also. I mean I don’t see the point of having sex with so many people because when you finally find your soul mate how will you be able to give him all of you when you have already given yourself to so many people before him. Well that’s just my opinion. I rather save myself for that special someone whom I know I will be with forever, so that I will be able to give him all of me. And he doesn’t have to worry about me comparing him to my other partners or me still being in love with them. And plus the Bible says it is also wrong, so what more of a reason do you need?

While I admire that you want to talk about something you care a lot about, If you go to a typical american public school than I would choose another subject… unless you aren’t worried about your peers critisizing you; or at least put in your speech that it is ok to have another opinion… but that this is just what you believe. Don’t make it why we ‘should’… make it why it is a good idea or something like that.

Love is the most beautiful emotion of all..

Love,care,trust,a sense of belonging,sharing common beliefs,being able to laugh and letting the small disagreements slide by, being there for each other is teh essence of true love.

Today youngsters feel lust more than love cos no sooner they are in a relationship they want to explore the physical aspects of a relationship which is wrong and can only leave them with a sense of guilt and regret when they think about it later..Many times when you think about ur past you tend to think that was a mistake..

God created love and He gave us the power to procreate only within the bonds of marriage and God delights in te chastity of a woman.In todays materialistic world all we care about is ourselves and our feelings we totally ignore God’s commandments..

Reserving physical love for marriage is beautiful because two people have promised standing in front of God promising to love and respect each other for their whole life and God approves of such a bonding within marriage.

For people who don’t believe in God reserving physical affection for marriage doesnt drive people to a sense of guilt and regret later.

Also there are a list of diseases and unwanted pregnancies that can be avoided at all costs..

Abstaining from sex before marriage is the right and wise thing to do..

it is one of the practices of clean-living.

less chance to get sexually transmitted diseases.

and sex creates an emotional bond between two people.

having it outside of marriage makes it hard for the couple to stay together because of misgivings and fear that the other would leave because there is no actual commitment and it was so “easy” to get sex outside the marriage vow.

when the stress gets to them, they separate and leave a part of themselves with the other. some people say its like a part of your flesh is torn from you. that is why some people go crazy when their significant other leaves and they get traumatized every time.

write that abstinance decreases the risk of STDs. It also prevents early pregnancies which cause stress and financial issues.

um…that’s all I can think of.

Good luck on your speech! break a leg!

1. You can try to make a paper with a Religious focus. Get verses from the Bible.

2. You can try to make a paper with focusing on Health (i.e. STDs, unwanted pregnancy)

3. You can try to make a paper focusing on valuing your partner or respect.

4. You can try to make one based on IF YOU ARE DECIDING TO WAIT TIL MARRIAGE, WHAT ARE YOU PERSONAL REASONS.