Discipline is learning about life. Actions have consequences.

You can get what you want from life if you learn how the rules work.

Discipline is something that helps you get it right, to succeed in the future. Without it, people would be a lot worse off.

Goal Of Discipline

The main goal of discipline is to develop character. You can discipline yourself. It is not punishment. It is intended to place someone in an environment where they can learn. Behavior modification is the outcome, but the character of the person is the real goal. From that, behavior will follow.

What your book says, or what your teacher says, however, may be a very different story. You should check with them. Your goal is to tell them what they want to know regardless of what is actually correct.

Surprisingly schools do not always teach what is true. Where Psychology is concerned much of it is theory. So the answer will dependent on the particular bend of your teacher and text.

The main goal of discipline is to change or modify behavior that the authority (parent, boss, wife, husband, etc.) wishes to have the person change.

First of all, discipline means having control. If you don’t have control, you won’t have peace and order. When it comes to children, these are two verses I have read from the Bible that could teach everyone the truth about them…what they really are and how to look after them: (Proverbs 22:6 and 15) “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.” Now, I believe that training up a child in the right path is not an easy task…truthfully, I have experienced that it’s really tough when you’re dealing with children who are still in their stage of being very restless and silly. They could be like any other children who do bad things like fighting, being disrespectful, or just being plainly disobedient to anyhting you say. That is why the word discipline is used. Therefore, as elder to those little kids, we have to teach them the right things that they are supposed to do and how to control their minds, hearts, feelings, and actions. We have to act like true leaders and to let them understand that scolding or even punishing them for the mean time is just for their own good.

Another thing, different children have different characters. Some children would be eager to obey if they are corrected in a gentle way. However, there are also children who do not listen to the superior unless the superior gets mad and punishes them. As a matter of fact, I just happened to have brothers with different characters like the two examples I gave. There’s one very important thing, though, that we ELDERS should do….and that is to let our little brothers and children fully understand that we discipline them with love so that they would not grow up to be bad people. We should let them know that we love them very very much and that is why we correct everything bad they did or are about to do so that those horrible things won’t lead them to a horrible future. We have to show them love, mercy, gentleness, and compassion. Children actually are wise and alert; however, their future can only be seen through how and what their elders teach and discipline them.

I would also like to share this.. My family have a lot of friends who also have families of their own with little kids too. I can observe that their children are very obedient to their parents. However, I don’t think that their children obey them because they love them and don’t want to hurt them. I think that they became very obedient because of fear that they might be spanked, scolded, or punished. Now, that is not the right kind of life we have to live on with our little loved ones. What happens next, when being very obedient due to fear, is that, when nobody’s watching them, the children would repeatedly do the bad things they were doing before. I witnessed some children, when their parents have gone somewhere they could no longer see them, again do things such as being restless, too noisy, and becoming disobedient to the ones they know they can manipulate. Children can be too manipulative but correcting them over and over could help them overcome that with goodness. I saw these children do some bad things when no one is around and, when someone in authority arrived, they became like little pups that could never break a glass. They just suddenly become “robot-like” children who would never refuse to obey anyone older than them. And witnessing those situations happen to those families is not a really good thing that we can feel glad and proud of. And above all, we would certainly not want any of our little ones become like those children…in the end, those children could possibly become rebellious (not that using the word “rebellious” is quite harsh, but it is still possible in situations like those). We would not want our children to feel like robots when we are around, and like escapees from prison when we’re out. We, of course, would want to see our little ones grow big, healthy, loving, and the best they could possibly become.

No matter what, we have to show them how much we love them and are blessed to have them. And in return, they would show unconditional love towards us and never want anyone to harm us. This is also what I have learned from my parents. They taught me everything they could that are the right things and they showed me the love they have in me. They showed me how much they trust me and how much they would not want me to break it. And now, I love them very much that I would freely die saving them than losing even one of them. I love them very much that I can’t even imagine myself living a life, maybe a new life with a new family, without them. I couldn’t possibly imagine a perfect life if they are gone. Although, when they are gone, I could be the 1st person responsible of taking good care of my brothers, I still don’t believe that we could live a life entirely the same when they were still around. I can’t even think of anyone to love more than them. AIthough I love my whole family—my parents as well as my brothers, my love for my parents are still entirely different than those I have for others. In this world, I love my parents the most, second are my brothers, 3rd are our pets (three cute dogs), and the others out there are ranked after them and according to how I recognize them (whether I can see them as good or bad people).