Of course she is normal. She is just focused and more disciplined that the other 20 year olds. And light-years more mature, too.

If you are not into drinking or the club scene that is not a big deal. But if you have no social outlets at all, that is a big deal. Studying and being smart is great, and your opportunities will be good. But they will be even better if you have social skills to interact with all kinds of people in the workplace (even those who make choices that you would not make).

Most likely this is just a case of being more mature than your peers. For some people college is about escaping from parental supervision and making choices as to what is and is not consistent with their personal values. Not all college learning happens inside a classroom. At some point their choices may lead to consequences they don’t like and then they will decide if they want to continue or change their behavior. This might happen in College, or maybe not until after graduation. But eventually they will either become alcoholics in denial or grow up. Some people have to learn through experience.

Other people are already confident about who they are and what they value and live that way. I personally never saw the attraction of drinking to get drunk. You either puke, wake up with regrets, or at the least have a rotten next day of recovery. If that is the only way to make my peers like me, I will find new friends!

All choices have consequences, good or bad. In this case it sounds like you may not be at a school that is a good fit for you. Look at other schools and see if you can find one where the students have similar priorities and make the kinds of choices you would. It doesn’t mean you will agree with everyone on everything, because it is healthy and necessary to step outside your comfort zone. That is part of learning too! But if you don’t find a place where you at least respect the people, you are not going to get the most out of your college experience. Don’t waste anymore time, you have already missed out on two amazing years at the right school!

Good luck.

i’m also in my second year of college and a don’t drink either. I think it’s great that you’re getting good grades and all but you can’t stay in all the time. i wouldn’t say it’s abnormal but it’s still not good. in my opinion you’ve got to learn to balance your studies with your playtime. sometimes you’ve just got to put the book down and go outside. nothing wrong with a little rock n roll but if you don’t feel like getting drunk and vomiting in the parking lot then do something else. trust me i know it’s hard when you don’t drink but get creative. hope this helps. good luck

Nothing wrong with not wanting to spend your weekend drunk and vomiting. But I’d still feel a little sorry for her if she felt she had to keep that 4.0 at the expense of any kind of social life – and if she thought that anyone who didn’t follow her example didn’t care about their education, I’d have to agree with the partiers that she was a little stuck up.

No, this girl isn’t normal, she’s extraordinary. The fact that she is so dedicated will probably help her a lot in life. But, everybody needs friends, you don’t need to go and get drunk to be normal, in fact, I don’t recommend it. But I think this girl, should at least go to some sort of social function, they don’t have to be parties, just somewhere to socialize with other people.

Personally, I think she has a lot of amazing quality’s, that a sad number of people lack.

that’s just me though.

Of course. Some people like to party. Some people don’t. As long as she is happy and fulfilled, then she’s doing something right.

I think she is perfectly normal. I think it’s a good thing that she isn’t following other people and ruining her life. She has her head on straight!! Those other girls should worry about themselves.

Is she ugly?